You’ve been planning your big day for probably close to a year now and what happens? A global pandemic has forced you to postpone. What. A. Bummer. Coronavirus hasn’t been easy on anyone, but we feel for our brides- and grooms-to-be. Your love is everlasting and will get you through this (after all, that’s why you’re getting married, right?), and there will be a time when we can gather to celebrate your love.
For now, here are some things to remember as you move forward with postponing your wedding.
5 Things to Consider When Postponing Your Wedding
Be flexible with reschedule dates
Go into rescheduling your wedding with an open mind. You’ll have to contend with all the other weddings that were already scheduled or that have been postponed. Pick a few dates so that you have options when you reschedule with your vendors, and don’t be afraid to pick Mondays, Thursdays, Fridays or Sundays. These aren’t traditional wedding days, so they’re likely to have availability. Your guests will attend no matter what day you choose.
Let your vendors know
Now that you have some dates in mind, let your vendors know ASAP. They’re the people bringing your event to life, after all. Present them with the alternate dates and secure one that works for all of them. Just remember to be considerate of their time and abilities. They’re dealing with other postponements and pandemic dilemmas as well. Your vendors can also help you figure out the next steps and answer any questions you may have.
Let your guests know
You and your partner need to come up with a communication plan for your guests, including answering questions about hotel blocks or room reservations that were already paid for. The easiest way to let everyone know is through your wedding website or on a mass email. Don’t be afraid to recruit close family members to help spread the word. Consider including an FAQ that answers their most common questions around your postponement.
Let your hotel know (if applicable)
If you reserved a room block at a hotel or two, call to find out about changing block dates and/or refunds for guests that can no longer attend. If you cannot get full refunds, consider negotiating for partial refunds on their behalf.
Consider a micro-wedding
A scaled-down version of your wedding can be the perfect alternative to a big shebang. Consider bringing your closest family together (moms, dads, siblings, grandparents) for an intimate ceremony in your backyard, living room or at a local park. You can still incorporate decorations, like mini orchids or strings of lights, and you can still get gussied up, even if it isn’t in your gown. Your ceremony will be sweet and still include everyone who has loved and supported you most.
A Postponed Wedding Isn’t a Failed Wedding
It’s OK to grieve the wedding you didn’t get to have, and talking with your bridesmaids and partner about your feelings will help you cope. You made the bigger decision of protecting everyone’s well-being to create an event that will still be memorable and safe for everyone in attendance — and that’s something to celebrate, too.